Comments on: When losing is good http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/2008/05/22/when-losing-is-good/ Raising Good Kids Mon, 26 Jul 2010 15:12:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: nikki http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/2008/05/22/when-losing-is-good/comment-page-1/#comment-487 nikki Sat, 24 May 2008 15:56:29 +0000 http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/?p=309#comment-487 It's funny because we say that it doesn't matter, but my daughter is her own worst critic. She struck out in softball the other day and you would have thought the world came undone. She cried all the way to the dugout to get her glove and take the field. She's been this way for a long time, since she was little! She takes every mistake personally. It's taken me 10 years to learn NOT to use those encouraging words like "it's ok, don't worry about it. Everyone strikes out. blah blah blah". She recovers faster when you just say nice try and let her deal on her own. It’s funny because we say that it doesn’t matter, but my daughter is her own worst critic. She struck out in softball the other day and you would have thought the world came undone. She cried all the way to the dugout to get her glove and take the field. She’s been this way for a long time, since she was little! She takes every mistake personally. It’s taken me 10 years to learn NOT to use those encouraging words like “it’s ok, don’t worry about it. Everyone strikes out. blah blah blah”. She recovers faster when you just say nice try and let her deal on her own.

]]> By: Katy http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/2008/05/22/when-losing-is-good/comment-page-1/#comment-485 Katy Sat, 24 May 2008 05:25:53 +0000 http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/?p=309#comment-485 Thanks for sharing a great example, Pete! Very proud of your son. Thanks for sharing a great example, Pete! Very proud of your son.

]]> By: Pete Aldin http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/2008/05/22/when-losing-is-good/comment-page-1/#comment-484 Pete Aldin Sat, 24 May 2008 02:57:02 +0000 http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/?p=309#comment-484 Hey this really resonates with me, Katy, especially "Do not make your child feel like he has to win every time". I've just come from the morning's tennis matches for my oldest son. He lost and his team captain lost and it was so wonderful to watch them joke about losing and have fun with it: "Oh you only lost 6-1? Well done, you scored one more game than me!" and they high-fived each other with a giggle. The three of us parents standing right along the sideline all held our tongues when one of our guys received an obviously bogus linecall and let the boys sort it out like gentlemen. Was so much more enjoyable than the team we versed a while ago who threw tantrums and had parents involved in the match etc. Good lessons here, pal!! Hey this really resonates with me, Katy, especially “Do not make your child feel like he has to win every time”. I’ve just come from the morning’s tennis matches for my oldest son. He lost and his team captain lost and it was so wonderful to watch them joke about losing and have fun with it:

“Oh you only lost 6-1? Well done, you scored one more game than me!” and they high-fived each other with a giggle. The three of us parents standing right along the sideline all held our tongues when one of our guys received an obviously bogus linecall and let the boys sort it out like gentlemen. Was so much more enjoyable than the team we versed a while ago who threw tantrums and had parents involved in the match etc.

Good lessons here, pal!!

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