Comments on: Initiation into manhood/womanhood: Rites of Passage http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/2009/04/27/initiation-into-manhoodwomanhood-rites-of-passage/ Raising Good Kids Sat, 13 Mar 2010 17:44:20 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Pete Aldin http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/2009/04/27/initiation-into-manhoodwomanhood-rites-of-passage/comment-page-1/#comment-1551 Pete Aldin Tue, 19 May 2009 06:57:24 +0000 http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/?p=729#comment-1551 Joe, just chucking in a small comment about your mentor-training thought. I'm running some workshops with a local church over the next two weekends on just that topic, helping some baby boomers become more intentional and confident at mentoring young people. So yeah, I think we need to re-engage and retrain in something that used to come naturally to human beings... And I chuckled at your "maybe I'm still a teenager" comment. I get it. Joe, just chucking in a small comment about your mentor-training thought. I’m running some workshops with a local church over the next two weekends on just that topic, helping some baby boomers become more intentional and confident at mentoring young people. So yeah, I think we need to re-engage and retrain in something that used to come naturally to human beings…

And I chuckled at your “maybe I’m still a teenager” comment. I get it.

]]> By: Katy http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/2009/04/27/initiation-into-manhoodwomanhood-rites-of-passage/comment-page-1/#comment-1540 Katy Mon, 18 May 2009 18:05:19 +0000 http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/?p=729#comment-1540 Of course we are all young at heart! My 86 year old dad told me that he is just beginning to feel old... Getting training is a good point, Joe. I am thinking that the tribal elder mentors with his life experiences. The qualifications of a mentor would be one who has learned from his mistakes, and is continually striving to please God. Of course we are all young at heart! My 86 year old dad told me that he is just beginning to feel old…

Getting training is a good point, Joe. I am thinking that the tribal elder mentors with his life experiences. The qualifications of a mentor would be one who has learned from his mistakes, and is continually striving to please God.

]]> By: Joe http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/2009/04/27/initiation-into-manhoodwomanhood-rites-of-passage/comment-page-1/#comment-1539 Joe Mon, 18 May 2009 17:55:50 +0000 http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/?p=729#comment-1539 Except that I'm no longer a teen, Katy. Or wait...maybe I am... :) On a related note, don't you think today's male mentor (the tribal elder, as it were) needs some training? I suspect most men today wouldn't have clue #1 about what an adolescent boy needs to learn in transition, much less how to go about teaching it to him. Except that I’m no longer a teen, Katy. Or wait…maybe I am… :)

On a related note, don’t you think today’s male mentor (the tribal elder, as it were) needs some training? I suspect most men today wouldn’t have clue #1 about what an adolescent boy needs to learn in transition, much less how to go about teaching it to him.

]]> By: Katy http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/2009/04/27/initiation-into-manhoodwomanhood-rites-of-passage/comment-page-1/#comment-1538 Katy Mon, 18 May 2009 17:48:21 +0000 http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/?p=729#comment-1538 Joe, maybe it's not too late yet to have a mentor! Just recently at my church, I was able to help encourage mentoring relationships for 3 boys with 2 young adult men. I pray that it works out well. Joe, maybe it’s not too late yet to have a mentor!

Just recently at my church, I was able to help encourage mentoring relationships for 3 boys with 2 young adult men. I pray that it works out well.

]]> By: Katy http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/2009/04/27/initiation-into-manhoodwomanhood-rites-of-passage/comment-page-1/#comment-1537 Katy Mon, 18 May 2009 17:45:50 +0000 http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/?p=729#comment-1537 Jonathan, thanks for your thoughtful comment. Unfortunately, teens usually emulate the "adult" behaviors of independence and freedom without shouldering the responsibilities. Jonathan, thanks for your thoughtful comment. Unfortunately, teens usually emulate the “adult” behaviors of independence and freedom without shouldering the responsibilities.

]]> By: Joe http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/2009/04/27/initiation-into-manhoodwomanhood-rites-of-passage/comment-page-1/#comment-1536 Joe Mon, 18 May 2009 17:41:18 +0000 http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/?p=729#comment-1536 I'm late to the conversation again. Maybe it's because I wasn't properly mentored as a teen. Pete got me thinking about these things a year or so ago. Since that time, I've had a couple of conversations with my 14-yr-old boy about what it means to be a man. I don't exaggerate when I say the kid is hungry for such instruction. Thanks, Pete. And thanks, AIP, for helping to bring more attention to this important subject. I’m late to the conversation again. Maybe it’s because I wasn’t properly mentored as a teen.

Pete got me thinking about these things a year or so ago. Since that time, I’ve had a couple of conversations with my 14-yr-old boy about what it means to be a man.

I don’t exaggerate when I say the kid is hungry for such instruction. Thanks, Pete. And thanks, AIP, for helping to bring more attention to this important subject.

]]> By: Jonathan http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/2009/04/27/initiation-into-manhoodwomanhood-rites-of-passage/comment-page-1/#comment-1534 Jonathan Mon, 18 May 2009 12:19:44 +0000 http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/?p=729#comment-1534 I told Pete this already, but it wasn't until I was 33 and bought my own house that I actually felt like an adult. We are sorely lacking a transition in western society-with the exception of the Jewish Bar Mitzva. I think teenagers in someways recognize this, many carry the expectation that they are adults and try emulating what they think are "adult" actions. However, many aren't prepared for those actions and it lands them in all kinds of trouble. I told Pete this already, but it wasn’t until I was 33 and bought my own house that I actually felt like an adult. We are sorely lacking a transition in western society-with the exception of the Jewish Bar Mitzva.

I think teenagers in someways recognize this, many carry the expectation that they are adults and try emulating what they think are “adult” actions. However, many aren’t prepared for those actions and it lands them in all kinds of trouble.

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